Our Families, Our Selves
With the holiday season approaching, it might be a good time to take responsibility for our part in the dynamics of our family and learn how to create a peaceful and fun-filled relationship with them.
One of the most beautiful aspects of life is that it’s
always reflecting to us exactly what needs to change within ourselves. If I
could categorize the types of situations that push our buttons the most, I would
say without hesitation ? that family is number one ? top of the
list.
So why does family challenge us so much? And why do we find
it so difficult to keep ourselves calm and centered around family? Many of us
can be in difficult situations at work, but give us five minutes with our parents
or siblings, and all hell breaks loose!
Let’s think about this logically. Most of our first agreements
and beliefs were created with and around our family. We made these agreements
at a time when we had limited experience in the world and not all the beliefs
we agreed to were “truthful? or “healthy.? If you have
children yourself, you can see how often your children come to conclusions about
things that are not the truth. When you see this, you have a talk with your
child and help them to see things in a different, less ego-centric way ?
but what about the times when you are not aware of what they are agreeing to?
The same goes for us. Just because we believe something about
our family does not mean that what we believe is truth. You might be prompted
to say, “Yes, Sheri it is, I can see the way my family acts and speaks
to me.? But it’s important to understand that we create our reality
and we create situations to trap our family members into behaving exactly like
we need them to in order to prove that what we believe about them to be true!
We are constantly manipulating our loved ones (and they are
doing the same to us) to behave the way we want them to behave so that we can
justify and rationalize our opinions about them. No, we are not mean and evil
people, as we do this without our awareness. The reason we do this without our
awareness is because we have an agreement as a society that “things happen
to us? and that we are “victims of life out there.? Except
there is no “out there.? We project our reality out upon the frame
of the dream.
As warriors, we take responsibility for our creation. We wake
up and no longer want to be a victim of life ? and instead we speak and
act with impeccability and love. We no longer become trapped by the actions
of others, and we no longer have the desire to make our family fit into the
image we have of them. This is very powerful, and it takes rejection of the
denial system of the ego-mind to be able to see what I am sharing with you today.
I encourage you to engage your family this holiday season for
the purpose of seeing how you create your reality, and to forgive , have gratitude
and appreciation for those you supposedly love the most.
About the author
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Sheri Rosenthal DPM is a master Toltec teacher and author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Toltec Wisdom and Banish Mind Spam!. She currently takes students on spiritual journeys www.journeysofthespirit.com works with personal apprentices and enjoys being extremely happy. You can reach her at info@sherirosenthal.com or www.sherirosenthal.com and www.withforgiveness.com.
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