Married and Cheating: Quiet Desperation
With the tough economic times we are facing, it seems like quiet desperation is becoming the norm. With way too many cheating spouses it’s that way all the time.
They say many of us live lives of quiet desperation. Going to work at a job we hate or getting stuck in a routine that for whatever reason we cannot escape from are good examples of this desperation.
When it comes to marriage infidelity, there are a lot of cheating spouses that feel the same way. They started out loving their significant others with a passion. They vowed to each other that the love would never die. Indeed for a long while it was exactly like that. Everything that happened in and outside of the relationship brought the two of you together.
But somewhere down the line it all changed. Being comfortable with each other gave way to familiarity which then turned into silent contempt. They couldn’t stand you being there all the time even though you were not. It’s not like you were hanging around them twenty four hours a day. You had your own obligations and responsibilities to take care of. That didn’t matter. Whether you saw them one second or one hour you were still there every day of the week. Just part of the routine background noise.
The unfaithful spouse feels like the world and you are closing in on them with no escape. Then out of the blue like a breath of fresh air, they meet that certain someone. It could be someone they work with, a person standing at the checkout line or a mutual family friend that they suddenly take notice of. It doesn’t matter all that’s important is they feel like they have been given a new lease on life.
The new person says and does things that you never have done. Everything is fresh and alive. For the first time in a long time they are really enjoying life. But the quiet desperation makes itself known once the cheating spouse comes back home. The see you doing the same old same old and it makes them angry , frustrated and a little more desperate. Yet they don’t have the gumption to walk out on you or even tell you what they want out of the relationship. So the quiet desperation continues. How long before it consumes them and you?
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